GRATITUDE

thanks bom...Ü


The Power of Gratitude
by Michael Licenblat B.Sc. (Psych),

Resilience Expert.
What you focus on is what you feel.In the same sense...
*When you focus on the negative aspects of otherpeople, they tend to bother you more often.
*When you focus on the negative aspects of yourbusiness/work, you tend to feel more uptight, annoyedor stressed.

It is not that people, work or life bothers us.

Rather, it is the negative aspects of people, work orlife that we focus on that tend to bother us.

Becoming resilient to pressure is a choice.
How fast you bounce back from stress, pressure andburnout is a choice.
> Question: So, how do you choose to be resilient?
> Answer: By practicing gratitude

Dr. Michael McCollough and Dr. Robert Emmons say theirinitial scientific study indicates that gratitudeplays a significant role in a person's sense ofwell-being.

They conducted the Research Project on Gratitude andThanksgiving. The study required several hundredpeople in three different groups to keep dailydiaries. The first group kept a diary of the eventsthat occurred during the day, while the second grouprecorded their unpleasant experiences. The last groupmade a daily list of things for which they weregrateful.

The results of the study indicated that dailygratitude exercises resulted in higher reported levelsof alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism andenergy. Additionally, the gratitude group experiencedless depression and stress, was more likely to helpothers, exercised more regularly and made moreprogress toward personal goals. According to thefindings, people who feel grateful are also morelikely to feel loved. Gratitude encouraged a positivecycle of reciprocal kindness among people since oneact of gratitude encourages another.

In an experimental comparison, those who keptgratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised moreregularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, feltbetter about their lives as a whole, and were moreoptimistic about the upcoming week compared to thosewho recorded hassles or neutral life events.

So, the next time you start feeling overwhelmed byyour workload, business crises, or relationshipdramas, realize that you been infected by the illnessknown as 'accidental negative focus syndrome'.Don't worry, the remedy is quick to apply and it isfast working :)

Action Steps:1. Frequency of gratitude.Make gratitude a daily practice.
Native Americans teach their children to wake up beingthankful for each new day. (Harry says; In my seminarsI used to tell audiences to be grateful they woke upthat morning because thousands of people around theworld, didn't!!)

Before getting out of bed each morning (or whilst inthe shower), take just 30 seconds to recount 5 thingsthat you are grateful for in your life.
It may be
* what is going right in your life
* the little things that add joy to you life
* the aspects of yourself that you enjoy and value
* the things in your life that you have accomplished -personal, physical and professional

2. Small gratitudeStart with small aspects of your life to focus yourgratitude on.
If you eat cereal for breakfast, be grateful forhaving fresh milk in your fridge - which you didn'thave to go out and milk the cow yourself for. Be happythat you have a job, others dont even know where and whento have their next meal. Trybeing grateful for traffic - which means that you havea car. Try being grateful for bumping into rude people- which reminds you of how fortunate you are to havethe type of friends you have.

Practice an "Attitude of Gratitude" and you'll beamazed what a Difference it'll Make!

On growing up and parting ways...

We attended Yuans Christening yesterday...err...actually...the lafangan episodes nalang ang inabutan namin ni perrine. Chubs wasnt able to join us, she said she had to sutdy for an exam, as for mara...hmm....we werent able to contact her...now where is that girl???hehehehe...Ü

In the table with me was perrine, kuya vlads, levs, kuya rg, kuya allan and ate bing. There were only a few people invited, the reception was held at the verdana clubhouse, just near brians house. Long time no see to tita girly...still pretty after all those years..thanks to vicky bello daw...hahah...Ü...JR, grown up man already...i bet...lotsa chick sworn around him...hehehe...Ü

...Honestly I miss brian and his company...man...spend half of your life with this guy...and tell me...if you wont miss him...(Miss them terribly...brian and bawa...lalo na ngayon...)..there were times that we will play basketball in our village, we are still wearing our school uniform...take note...im in skirt...hahaha...we would go to ATC using Brians left hand drive car...watch TV till the nights drops...and many more...but all of this are now...plainly memories... :(

Its a sad thought that in so many ways...brian and me grew up...seperately...funny thing...si kuya pa ang kabarkada niya ngayon...(to think na takot siya kay kuya dati). I felt na nag iba yung mga POVs namin...yung mga prinsipyo namin sa buhay...siguro nga...e kasi naman..mga bata pa kami noon...hindi pa namin masyado napag iisip ang mga seryosong bagay...pero...bakit si bawa...kahit lumaki na kami...parang...BOOM...exactly where we left...pero kay brian...iba...i dunno...siguro...marami kasi nangyari sa buhay namin na alam namin na mas maganda nalang na hindi pag usapan...naman...Si welly, si wenny at si janissa...oh san ka pa diba?!?!...oh well...kaya siguro ganun...

Pero amidst how i feel...sana naman...(and perrine shares the same sentiment)...alam niya..na no matter what happened...kaibigan niya pa rin kami..na if ever he needed that extra hand...he could have called us...wala nang pride or hiya...sa dinami-daming kabulastugan na ginawa ni brian in the past...tanggap namin siya...taena...kaibigan namin siya e...I know he is going thru some difficult time...(i know most of us are)...pero...we are just here...la naman sumbatan saatin e...Ü

"BRIAN: Uhugin pa lang kami magkakaibigan na kami..."

...e ngayon pa kayang matatanda na tayo...diba? :)

and its awimaweks turn

I saw this questions flying in the mails and trixy ended up being ....HAHAHA...whatever...
so heres's my turn... :)



1. What did you do in 2005 that you'd never done before?
Bike, Travel, Dorm, Bora, Frio Gig, makipabalikan...hahaha...lotsa things! Ü

2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
hahahah...i didn't had one...Ü

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
yah...wife of my friend...officemates...

4. Did anyone close to you die?
Yah, my uncle abe... :(

5. What countries did you visit?
...hehehe...Malaysia, also went to bora last year

6. What would you like to have in 2006 that you lacked in 2005?
Health conscious, more wise in spending money...

7. What date from 2005 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
hahaha...seriously??? Jan. 27 2005....hahaha...i got drunk that night...someone stood us up...and the story goes on and on and on...(of all the dates...why?!?!?!...masama talga ako magalit...tsk tsk tsk!!!)

8. What was your biggest achievement/s of the year?
Being independent, learned new dishes...Ü

9. What was your biggest failure?
....gaining weight... :(...missing out for the China Layout IE position (now plus the Opening Arnoldo had... :(...huhuhu... )

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
...KASALANAN NI RAFFFFFFFFFFFFFF!!!..yah...sprained my right knee...accdg to the doctor...its stretched ligament...its almost over 3 months...but still hurts in some occassion...

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Hmmmmm...dami...my K-hon, my Z600, my opm CDs specially...my K2 bike (na kuya at tatay ko ang nakikinabang....its all good!!!)

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
hmmm....no one special naman...

13. Whose behaviour appalled you and made you depressed?
ahhhh...if trixie said it ws bestie..for me it was...KILALA NIYO NA ITO!!!....hahahaha!

14. Where did most of your money go?
ha! CDS, clothes, food, travel, accessories, gifts...(gift giver ako e \:P)

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
lots...my travel to bora and penang...

16. What song will always remind you of 2005?
hahahahah...can i say EVER AFTER and THE DAY YOU SAID GOODNIGHT....hahahaha
(ate jona kasi...always playing it in the car e...ahahah!)
Also, Hiling, dreamers lullabye, i cant make you love me, dami dami dami dami!!!

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
A. Happier or Sadder? Happier, I felt so blessed this year!!! sobra!!! Ü
B. Thinner or Fatter? HELLO ARE YOU BLIND?!?!?....Fatter!!!
C. Richer or Poorer? Richer!...richer hair volume...hahahahah!

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...tsk!

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
le pigra! and doubt whats going on... :(...hate ngorsh ngorsh...

20 Did you fall in love in 2005?
naman naman....OVER and OVER AGAIN!!!!!

21. How many one-night stands?
Strict ang parents ko...Ü

22. What was your favorite TV program?
Rockstar INXs, PBB...hahah...CSI. OC. Chefs on the go...plus the regular shows

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
siya pa rin...hanggat hindi numipis ang labi niya, hanggat hindi tumino ang boses niya...at hanggat hindi niya ako pakisamahan ng tama at makit ko na pinahahalagahan niyang tunay ang kuya ko...ARGGGGGGGHHHH!!!...nahihiblood na naman ako!!!

24. What was the best book you read?
hahaha...mga libro ni bob ong...the best!!!

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
...hmmm..lots of OPM bands...Ü

26. What did you want and get?
My K-hon!!!!Ü!

27. What did you want and not get?
...sige...next lifetime nalang!hahah

28. Favorite film of this year?
...Jay...skeleton key???...hahaha!Ü!

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
buti nalang i had good mems with the january celebrants bday party...hahaha...got drunk...harrassed raf...threw butong pakwan and screamed at Loves ear..."POWWW!"..hahahah! I turned 23 that time...hayyyyÜ

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Sana i was more patient and cautious sa mga words na ginamit ko...nawawala tuloy ang tama ni momsie saakin...Ü

31. What kept you sane?
friends, family...kuya jess of courseÜ

32. What political issue stirred you the most?
EVAT, coup attempts, oil hike!!!hayyyyy!

33. Who did you miss?
...bowser...definitely bowser... :(

34. Who were the best new persons you met?
Trix, Dennis, Karen, Uncle Jcboy, Dencio

35. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2005.
Quotes from Jessica Zafras books:
- Life is good...you should have one...
- In life you can never be ready...you can only be strong...
and as always...i still believe that life is one roller coaster ride...enjoy the ride. I will always mistake, meaning i will always learn... and most of all...everything is a matter of perspective...believe me...right trix?!?!? :)

next lifetime

I promised myself that i'll be posting more in my blog...less songs...but due to time...and katams...i'll land with this song instead.

NEXT LIFETIME
ERYKAH BADU

Now what am I supposed to do
When I want you in my world
How can I want you for myself
When I’m already someones girl?

First time that I saw you boy
It was a warm and sunny day
All I know is I wanted you
I really hoped you looked my way
When you smiled at me
So warm and sweet
I could not stay
You make me feel like a itty-bitty girl
What do you do to me

I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
No hard feelings
I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
I’m gonna be there

Your energy, feels so damn good to me
It picks me up don’t wanna come down
You got me spinning all around
YeahYou need to know
I’ve got that somebody
You’re beautiful
But it ain’t that kind-a party nowww

Well I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
Baby we’ll be butterflies
I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
That sounds so divine
I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
I guess I will nowI guess I’ll see you next lifetime
Wait, wait a little while

See it ain’t nothing wrong with dreaming
Boy don’t get me wrong
Cause every time I see you (every single time)
I know just how strong (every single time)
That my love is for my baby
But emotions just don’t lie
Well I know I’m a lot of woman
But not enough to divide the pie

I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
You know I want to stay around
I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
I’m so confused now

I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
AlreadyI’m going to be there
I guess I’ll see you next lifetime

I guess I’ll see you next lifetime
OhOh babyI’m gonna be there
I’m gonna be there


...maybe next lifetime...Ü